Adoption; My How Things Have Changed
Gone are the days where even in family life that we are familiar with adoptions were very secretive events that often happened in the confines of homes for mother’s who couldn’t take care of their babies and were whisked away to find solitude with little to no support behind their decisions. Also gone are the days of 100% closed adoptions where the adopted child could never find out any information on their biological family.
Recently we discovered a cousin of my husband through a DNA test done online. Her adoption record and birth certificate were closed by the courts and unable to be reopened so she took to the internet to find out more about her relatives through a popular DNA test completed through Ancestry.com where she was able to find multiple cousins and other relatives that had also taken the test to link her to her birth mother who unfortunately had already passed away. She had 1 photograph of herself when she was a young child and that was it. No other real information but thanks to technology we have all been able to reconnect.
This leads me to the point of this whole post. Things these days are way more open. Families celebrate the adoptions of children just like the births of children from their own womb. They hire photographers such as Tana Taylor adoption to capture these moments in their families. These heartwarming photographs are not only special for the adopting parents but also to the child as he or she ages. These pictures can be treasured just as any other child would treasure their family photos.
Some adoptions these days are open or semi open where the families combine and raise the child together with the birth parents (or parent) present for all of the big milestones. Others communicate annually or semi annually through photographs, letters and emails only. This makes room for one big happy family often even including grandparents as extras in the life of this bundle of joy.
We have seen more about the openness of adoption through the hit series Teen Mom on MTV where a couple named Catelyn & Tyler were forced to choose to place their child for adoption as they were too young to care for her. Tyler & Catelyn have been together for many years now and have another child that they were able to keep as they were adults and in a more stable situation as opposed to being teen parents. They keep in touch with their first born through phone calls with the adopting parents as well as photos and annual visits.
Knowing that adoption is not a secret thing these days makes people have less guilt and anxiety over their choices and also know that there are more support groups out there for parents who wish to place their children with adoptive parents.
If you or someone you know is having a crisis pregnancy and wish to consider adoption, please reach out to a local organization. There is a lot of help available out there if you choose including shoulders to lean on and others who have been through the same things as you are going through.