Moving into a new home, especially your first full property, is an exciting, mystifying, terrifying, completely incredible, absolutely overwhelming experience. It’s a milestone in your life, perhaps not as large as having a child or getting married, but one to take care of and adore for some time.
But don’t worry – everyone can be a little out of their depth, which is likely how you feel right now. Even if you’ve lived in many apartments and perhaps have had a tiny property of your own for some time, a medium to large-sized house can be another story entirely. You may start gaining impostor syndrome within your own walls, despite all of the paperwork quite clearly pointing to your legal right to occupy this place.
This is not an uncommon feeling. In order to feel more comfortable and take this into your stride, we have curated some excellent tips which should help you feel like the fabulous homeowner you now are. We would recommend keeping them close to your heart:
If you’re out of your depth regarding home repairs, finding some worthwhile DIY advice can be a great strategy to feel a little more competent around the house. The Tool Report is known for finding excellent reviews regarding certain must-have appliances such as drills and lawnmowers, and often YouTube guides can be found for any design you are trying to construct, even something as simple as putting up a shelf in a cramped space.
All you need is a phone or tablet equipped with a web browser, and you’ll find everything you need. You may also decide to read up on simple things, such as cooking with new appliances, home-quick solutions to prevent a leak, or how to properly cultivate a garden for the first time. Never feel as though what you’re searching is stupid, or you should know it already. It’s better to be open to new knowledge than set in your ways, and that makes a difference.
Settling in can take a matter of time, but it’s often best felt when you unpack everything, you spend some time in each room, you take a weekend or two just completely enjoying life in your home, and you invite some friends around to enjoy the new pad.
Of course, it might take a few months until you feel ‘fully settled,’ but there’s no reason as to why you won’t in a matter of time. You just need to allow this comfort to take place, to decorate the home as you like it, to begin making adjustments that you feel are important. Give yourself time, and you’ll feel as though you’ve lived there for years. Do not be afraid to learn things, such as how to properly operate your boiler, or how to protect your property with a new security alarm.
Usually, one full year is sufficient to feel fully settled, because by then you will have experienced all of the seasonal shifts that your home experiences. Additionally, little measures such as decorating the front door arch, laying your own carpet down or constructing new furniture can help you gain a sense of authorial intent in this space.
‘Filling The Home’
Humans are good at ‘filling things’. We see a wall space, we want to decorate it. We see an open room, we want to fill it. We see an open bookshelf, we start ordering title after title from Amazon. There’s nothing particularly wrong with all of this. But if you find that your house is feeling a little open, it can be that heading to the furnishing store to purchase anything you come across might not be the best option.
Let your home fill naturally. Perhaps you’ll be given something by a friend, or perhaps you’ll come across a beautiful antique chair in a store near you, or perhaps you’ll find sofa cushions you just have to have online. Artificially filling the home can only make you feel as though you’re in a showroom, and that’s never a positive feeling. Do not be afraid to be patient as far as this goes.
Finding Your Community
Learn more about your local community? A house is not an island. There are people around you, even in a rural and remote area. Greet them. See who is nice and who isn’t. Perhaps invite a neighbor around for afternoon tea. When you feel socially settled, you’ll feel as though this house is yours.