Sometimes, the idea of being single can be incredibly liberating. You get to pour 100% of your energy into your self – and focus on what truly matters to you. Therefore, when getting out of one relationship you must take some time to be alone and experience new things before getting back into the dating game. You owe that time to yourself!
However, when the time is right – you may feel as though you’re a little lost in the world of dating. Whether you’re going to be using the latest app or hoping to meet somebody organically, it can be hard to navigate your way through this new world – especially if you feel out of practice. With that in mind, here are some important things you might want to consider before you throw yourself back into the mix.
Have you processed your last break up?
If you’ve gone through a particularly messy break up (such as being left for another man), its only natural for you to want to put yourself out there as quickly as possible. Often, we feel that jumping into a new relationship will be a great way to process our feelings of anger, hurt and sadness as we can replace what we have lost with a new partner. However, this simply isn’t the case. To get into a healthy new relationship, you need to ensure that you are in a good place. Give yourself a break, take care of your mental and physical health, and ensure that you don’t move on before you are ready.
Do you know exactly what you are looking for?
When you think about it, you probably have an idea in your head as to who your ideal partner is. Beyond looks, this could also pertain to their personality, interests and life goals. However, while you should not expect a person to tick every single one of your boxes (after all, we are only human – and nobody is perfect), its important that you know what kind of relationship you are looking for when you get started. It’s perfectly fine to be looking for just a fling – but you need to ensure that your potential partner is on the same page. Ensure that you take the time to have difficult conversations about what you are looking for in the early stages of the relationship to avoid potential heartache.
How can I make myself a better partner?
While you shouldn’t have to change anything about yourself to start dating, you also need to ensure that you bring something good to the table and provide your potential partner with precisely what they need in a relationship. For example, you should ensure that you are kind and attentive and listen when they are talking (even if they’re venturing onto topics that aren’t your favourite). You should also take on a certain level of responsibility – for example, offering to pay for the morning after pill should such a situation arise. Taking steps to support your partner no matter what can help build solid and lasting relationships.