We all feel the pressure from time to time. When we have struggles with our mental health, or we feel that we are digging ourselves into a metaphorical hole and when we try to get out, it seems futile. Ultimately, learning to help ourselves is crucial, but when we are struggling, what are the things that we can do to make sure that we are helping ourselves?
There Is Lots Of Help Out There
From drug rehab to counseling, it’s important to remember that there is a plethora of help available. And because there is such a diverse set of resources that it is possible for us to reach out to someone and find, not necessarily the solution, but a way to get in the right direction. Even when we feel that we can’t ask for help if we have an inkling of the path that we can go in, we can find resources online that point us down a certain road. And for all of the people out there that say “Dr. Google” is not helpful, for those that feel they cannot turn to any human help, this can be their only outlet.
Learning To Take It Easy On Yourself
This is one of the most difficult things that we can ever undergo when we are taking those steps towards helping ourselves. We can find we take things out on ourselves or punish ourselves unnecessarily. And when we don’t think we are worth helping, this is when we can fall down the slippery slope. The fact of the matter is that we have to learn to take it easy on ourselves. When we realize that we are struggling with certain problems that we’ve got to give ourselves a pass on occasion. Some people feel that they have to accomplish so much in order to feel anything of worth. And when we don’t accomplish our goals right away, even in terms of solving problems or achieving something, we can view ourselves as a failure. We must learn to take it easy on occasion. Learning to play the long game is just as important. When we start to relax in this respect, our attitudes can change, and we can start to view ourselves as more a long-term project than something that needs to be fixed right away. This means that we have that all-important perspective on events.
Incorporate Daily Practices That Help Towards A Long-Term Goal
Once you start to relax in one way, you can begin to implement practices in your life that make you feel more even-keeled. When we start to learn how to help ourselves, it’s not necessarily about the big achievements. We must remember that it’s the small things that can have a major impact. And when we start to incorporate little things that are, for so many people, incredibly obvious, this can give us a structure and an anchor to our lives. It could be something that helps you mentally, such as meditation or learning to calm the symptoms of anxiety. Conversely, it could be something physical, such as a certain type of exercise which makes you feel that you are developing your resilience. But when we start to incorporate a structure into our day this is what can help give our lives meaning. And when we start to help ourselves in these very small ways they can be the ticket to a calmer mind and a better sense of self.
Be Aware Of Your Thoughts
We can place a lot of importance on how we are thinking. But thoughts are sometimes thoughts and nothing more. When we are struggling, negative thoughts can creep upon us. Being aware of our thoughts and thought patterns can help us to break the cycle. It’s not that these thoughts are insignificant but it’s about realizing that we all start to listen to that voice in our head that says we “can’t” do something. That’s not to say that it’s true. Because we all have off days and when we are trying to help ourselves but we are struggling this can be one of the biggest obstacles. Everything could be going right but there could be that niggling thought at the back of our mind telling us that this is all pointless. Thoughts are there to be challenged and when we start to dig deep and clear away the negative voices, we can start to achieve more clarity. But we have to realize that these thoughts don’t need to be the undoing of us.
We all struggle and when we feel that we can’t get the help we need, we may feel that we are beyond help. Nobody is beyond help, but when we are struggling it’s important to take a step back and realize that help comes in many different forms.