Despite really loving and desiring a certain person, many men often blow making a relationship work. It is almost like a self-destruct button is on, and they just don’t feel good enough perhaps. How are we in a relationship that we like, while still make a mess of it? Here are some common mistakes that men are making in relationships and what to do about them.
Not Being Present
It is important to remember that being physically present is different from being present. When you’re with your other half, many men (and women) are constantly checking emails or scrolling through their Facebook feed. Put your phones down! Women love to have attention, so make sure that you are showing her love and attention when you are with her. You are dating her after all, and not your phone. It could be a simple as giving her a compliment when you first see her, but she will know you’re present, not looking at random cat memes. When you put other people or other things in front of her for a long period of time, then the relationship will naturally break down. You can’t talk and connect when you’re not present and together. Of course, this does work both ways. But you can take the lead, especially if you’re the one doing it more than others.
The bottom line with this one is that if you lie, you will be caught out. People, especially in this modern day and age, find things out. When your partner no longer trusts you, then it really isn’t a good place for your relationship to be in. For many women, their other half is their rock or foundation, and if trust gets lost, then they can feel shaky. So trust is really critical if you want the relationship to work. Be honest, and own up when you have made a mistake. Otherwise, you might find yourself sat wondering how to get your girl back when you could have done things to avoid losing her in the first place. Being honest shows respect; don’t you want the same back from her too?
You Undervalue Her
It is natural for us all to be a little self-absorbed from time to time, and we don’t always see the people and things around us that are making a difference in our lives. The thing is, if you are used to getting a lot of support from your other half, you can often take it for granted and not appreciate all that your other half is doing for you. So think about writing thank you notes or simply just saying thank you. When someone does something all the time, we can forget that it is hard work for them to do it. Appreciation goes a long way!
At the end of the day, there are a few things that you need to make sure that you’re doing in a relationship. Make sure that you’re not breaking her trust, as well as noticing her and acknowledging her. Don’t try to fix her or change things about her. Show her you love her and that you really do value her. She needs a rock to be there for her.